Sensitive Friend (quite a few times you called yourself “the one so good to give advice to others”),
From time to time, we have no choice but to accept realities we don’t know, and our perception of others would be wrong. We also have to admit the construct of others about ourselves, and their impression would be wrong occasionally.
It’s too complicated like this, in writing! By the way, the ‘compliments’ I mentioned last time, were not necessarily from my cousin. They don’t matter nowadays and yes they are silly. However, they had affected my behaviour and disposition for many years in the past.
Finito! A long time ago! Unfortunately, because of them, I ignored warm gestures I should have accepted and would have been healthy to feel and have. Fortunately, I continue to communicate with those people.
I don’t throw out of the window some relationships, especially as I need to maintain a behaviour as an example for my children, even if they are by now adults.
Wise Friend,
There’s nothing wrong in this, I have to be circumspect you don’t misunderstand me.
This way you end up liking yourself. It’s normal in your case, as I don’t believe anybody who knows you doesn’t like you.
Therefore, I keep bringing up those books located in American libraries intending to improve the quality of life (self-confidence…). They recommend such results, and therefore, the goal is reached. You’ve created a method, unconsciously out of instinct.
This is good for you and this all that matters. I repeat, I understand you. How much I do!
Sensitive Friend,
Again those “vapourware” books? Without a solid basis, after reading them, one ends up talking as if slightly dizzy.
However, these books have had a positive role by discussing excellent values in a world where many people are either fanatic or incredibly selfish.
People, otherwise too self-centred, learned with the help of such books or similar workshops to listen and know others also have something to say
Such books brought to light traumatic family secrets, well hidden in the past.
It’s good that victims of incest, paedophilia, rape, violence are now free to speak out and use such book for recuperation.
Wise Friend,
Personally, I’ve told you before, I have a different opinion. I think one’s personality must manifest first of all somehow passively, though the way you are and you show yourself, for others to appreciate you (or despise you, or watch you indifferently) step by step, and culminating maybe with love and passion.
The feedback those around gave you (within a variety of circles of interference) might give you a sign of how you are, better than how you see yourself.
Indeed, not all reactions matter, though. The reaction of those important to you matter.
This has been my brief theory for today. I hope this doesn’t antagonise you. This time, I don’t know on which leg I catch you. Had I told you these words face to face, you’d understand better.
P.S. I exchanged a few words with your cousin. He called me a cynic, as this is how his retina has a faux imagination about me, though we are amicable friends.
Sensitive Friend,
Was that P.S. necessary? I love my cousin, and you know that.
I don’t agree with you statement about the feedback of the others and who one is. Ther’s a some truth in that, though only some.
eachword-eachday 